Reading the recent New York Times article about working on marriage (well, I have to confess I'm only on page five), has reminded me that Matt and I want to solidify our marriage before we jump into the sea of parenthood.
We started the process by taking a marriage class back in August, but we haven't done much since then. We've been trying to enroll in therapy together for a while, but we haven't gotten around to finding someone.
It's so easy to skip straight to the baby stuff. I only meant to read a book or two about preparing one's body for conception, but I quickly realized that pretty much every pregnancy book has information about pre-conception. My most recent read--The Complete Organic Pregnancy--is all about trying to eliminate nasty chemicals from your life (ostensibly to be your healthiest possible self for a baby, but also just for you).
I wanted to capture my to-do list before I have to return the book to the library:
- I need to go to the dentist. I know this seems unrelated. But I haven't been in almost two years. I need to go. Period. I really want to find a biological dentist who runs a mercury-free practice. Gosh. I really hate thinking about dentists.
- Schedule a general check-up. I am behind on this front, too. Argh! I used to be so good about going to the gynecologist every year and the dentist every six months.
- Start looking for a midwife.
- Start visiting hospitals and birthing centers and exploring the home-birth option.
- Find a saltwater pool to swim in when I'm pregnant.
- Switch to all-organic body products (the book recommends the site saffronrouge.com for product recommendations).
- Get a vegetable brush to clean off wax and other crap from my fruits and vegetables.
- Get a device to remove chlorine from our shower (any recommendations?).
Oops. I almost forgot the marriage items:
- Find a marriage counselor.
- Start printing out copies of our photographs and putting them in an album or binder or something.
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